Peace, Uganda

GORILLAS

let me just start off by saying good luck to the rest of my life, on living up to this day.

my ultimate bucket list item, and one of my main reasons for coming to Rwanda, has been checked off – I WENT GORILLA TRACKING!!!!

there are only mountain gorillas (the big black ones) living in 3 places in the world: Rwanda, Uganda, and the Congo. and i was fortunate enough to see them and spend time with them in their natural habitat. i feel so so lucky and happy. the only downfall is i honestly don’t know what can top this!!

i got a gorilla tracking permit from the Ugandan Wildlife Authority, and my hotel manager at the Bwindi Backpackers Lodge (decent budget option but FAR from luxury) picked it up for me. the reason i chose Uganda is because during rainy season the permits are $450 USD ($600 in peak season) compared to Rwanda’s recent price hike of $1,500. the Congo’s permits are $200 but that may be just a bit TOO wild for me, and it worked out that we were in Uganda for the triathlon weekend. also my East African Tourist Visa gets me into Rwanda, Uganda and Kenya. you can also go through a tour guide which will include transportation and accom but also a booking fee. best to book the permit yourself if possible, and then your accommodation should hook you up with transportation because it’s a 2 hour bumpy ride to the forest!!

my trek was in the Nkuringo area of the Bwindi Impenetrable National Park (impenetrable – how badass is that). there are 2 gorilla families that live there (one with 9, one with 12) along with other wildlife like monkeys, bush pigs, deer etc. no elephants, i checked.

the briefing began at 7:30 and the trek at 8:45ish. i was SO NERVOUS/excited due to our guide giving us instructions to walk backwards and not make eye contact if the silverback charges at you. like that’s a thing. okay. there can be 8 people per group and it was me, 5 old Germans (literally one lady was 76, props to her) and a really nice couple from Greece.

the trek is basically vertical down a mountain and then up again. we went through the cutest sparse little villages amongst banana trees, tea plants, and other crops, with the cutest little kids peeking out at us from behind their houses. it was beyond beautiful. and crazy to me that there are gorillas in their backyard.

it took us about 1.5-2 hrs to get down. there were trackers ahead of us locating our gorilla family and directing us via walkie talkies; our UWA guide Florence; and 2 officers with AK47s guiding the group and bringing up the rear. on the off chance a gorilla were to show aggression to us, they would shoot to the sky as a warning to scare the gorillas. everyone was smiley and nice and i felt 100% safe.

our guides were literally clearing a path for us through the thick jungle with their machetes. my advice is to defs wear high hiking boots – you will be trudging through the bush. and make sure they’re got grip, because did i mention VERTICAL?! you need a walking stick too but they will give you one. without my stick i would have just slid down the hill on my butt.

it was so exciting when we were getting close. we saw a path of flattened bush which had been recently paved by the gorillas. i heard a crack in the branches and saw a black blob flash by. SO CRAZY. we stashed our bags and walked over to them, staying in a big group.

THE GORILLAS ARE SO CUTE AND MAJESTIC AND FASCINATING. i could watch them forever. they just wander around on all fours, plop down and pick some leaves (very selectively, i might add), climb trees, sometimes fall down because a branch breaks and they maybe underestimate their own weight. eat some more leaves. a baby was smiling rolling around with its mom. a few of them were posing for us. we were with the family of 12, which had 2 silverbacks (the dominant one and his #2) and a blackback male, who would become silver around age 12. fun fact: gorillas can live up to age 40!

the craziest part was HOW CLOSE WE WERE!! we would watch them from like 3 metres away, but some of them would walk past us and we would be within a few feet. they didn’t mind us at all, would mostly just chill and sometimes would stare at us. meanwhile us strange humans are just clicking and beeping away on our cameras.

their movements and features are so humanlike. their ears are human shaped. their hands and feet are just leathery black versions of ours. they would use their hands to dig through the bush for their perfect leafy branch, reach their arms around to scratch their back. i saw one pick its nose with its finger. it was so insane to be right there in their home, it was like an out-of-body experience. especially knowing if they wanted to, the silverbacks could casually crush me with their pinkie finger.

we spent an hour with them and then took the vertical trek back up the mountain. that one took about 3 hours because we stopped for lunch, and the Germans liked their rests. but it was an insanely hard hike so i’ll give them that!! on the way up we could hear the children coming home from school and singing from across the mountain. the kids we had walked past would yell “HOW ARE YOU! I AM FINE! GOODBYE” as we kept climbing. it was a total pinch-me moment.

if anyone is reading this i can’t recommend it enough – top 3 experiences of my life. or at least pick the craziest bucket list item for yourself, and then go do it. it’s a pretty cool feeling. 12/10 on the happy scale 🙂

Peace, Uganda

Uganda: into the wild

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Tommy and a few of his friends here were doing a triathlon in Uganda so we went to Fort Portal for the weekend and IT WAS SOOO FUN!! cue Macklemore Good Old Days.

our adventurous, easygoing, positive, amazing crew was: Yuhki and Ragnar (visiting from Germany), Brittany, Lukas, Tommy, Ilja, Julia (living in Kigali) and moi!!

Uganda is wild and lush with rolling hills and people EVERYWHERE and police that will pull you over for brides and not a tonnn of rules or structure. vehicles are overflowing with passengers and boys are herding their goats or cows off the streets with their sticks. as one local described it to me, in comparison to Rwanda, Uganda is “more chaotic, but also i suppose more free”

here’s a summary (with parts compiled from our Whatsapp convo):

– boys pack up the bikes and luggage on our new roof rack that we did and then didn’t have every 15 mins throughout the morning. us girls are enjoying this new spectator sport.

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– 11 hour travel journey through the pitch black Ugandan road dodging kids, donkeys, dogs and motos

– side note: Ugandan motos have up to 4 people and 0 helmets. total chaos compared to Rwanda’s moto scene, which isn’t exactly smooth sailin itself

– playing 123 CONTACT because we are enthusiastic road trippers. and the boys love when we play Tay’s new album “this is why we can’t have nice things daaarliinnn”

– stop at Pumba Lodge, attacked by unidentified insects. would be 2 hours and $25usd per person for penne. we move on and get raw-ish corn on the cob and doughballs from kids on the street. it was here i realized how lucky we are to have access to food ALL THE TIME, and also the importance of filling up on meals here in Africa when we can because you just never know

– stumbled upon the equator

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– Kisese (ghost town)’s best meal – rice and “beef”? who knows. peed in another hole though.

– amazing breakfast at Kyaninga Lodge (note to future wealthy self: stay here)

– sunrise with the clouds rolling over the Ugandan jungle. STUNNING.

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– triathlon! 2 course records for Lukas and Brittany!!!

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– buddy eating grasshoppers out of his palm

– Tommy’s peeling back – can you not

– swimming in the crater lake with a sinking, wasp-infested dock. i was wondering if i will find scenery as breathtaking as that was throughout the rest of my trip.

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– poolside wine

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– dinner at Fort Portal’s hottest restaurant (which also happened to be our hotel), The Dutchess. pizza and banana milkshake, i’m drooling

– Sunday: more boys adjusting the roof rack, girls are helpfully supervising

– drive through Queen Elizabeth National Park, i have never been so determined to see something in my life as i was on that drive. my eyes were PEELED for elephants

– Baboon Lodge for picnic lunch – beautiful resort – FINALLY SPOT MY ELEPHANT!!!! i am a 10/10 on the happiness scale

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– termite turned grasshopper harvest

– Off road driving bundled with live drone action shots

– driving 100km/h and wondering why the car makes noises while the handbrake is on

– Tommy and i get off at Kabale. next stop: GORILLAS!!!!!

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Peace, Rwanda

Akagera: the birthplace of my safari obsession

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i discovered a new favourite pastime – SAFARIING!!

 

along with Yuhki and Ragner from Germany (Tommy’s friends’ friends), i went on an overnighter to Akagera National Park, which is on the eastern border of Rwanda right beside Tanzania. IT. WAS. THE. BEST.

 

you can hire a guide but we (and when i say we i mean Ragner) rented an SUV and drove ourselves. Akagera has a few dirt roads that you can follow, and the rest is a whole mixed bag of terrains – thick bush, grasslands, flat plains, hills. it would take about 5-6 hours to drive the length but we mostly stuck around the southern part. it’s not a traditional safari but they do have all of the Big Five animals (elephants, lions, rhino, hippo, buffalo) thanks to recent imports of lions and rhinos earlier this year.

 

30 seconds after entering the park i screamed. an ELEPHANT was like 2 metres from the path. you know, you see people’s safari pics and you’re like oh that’s cool. but being a stone’s throw away from a real live giant elephant is INSANE!!!

 

that wasn’t our only close elephant encounter. later that day, after a behind-the-scenes tour from a park guide named Innocent (very enthusiastic but VERY REPETITIVE AND POINTLESS) we went for another cruise through the bush. we passed a German family who was driving the wrong way down a one way path. they turned around because of elephants on the path. being the Millennials we are, we proceeded towards the elephants. round the bend and bam there is an elephant and her baby!!!! SO CUTE I WAS DYING but we weren’t sure how close we could get, because we are well aware that they could destroy us. those tusks are not messing around. the mom and baby backed into the bush and we crept along the road… only to be surprised with 6-7 more elephants around the next bush. Ragner steps on it and our hearts are PUMPING. first elephant spottings were a huge success. the next day some other guides told us we are CRAZY for being so close and are lucky we made it out alive!! words of wisdom that Innocent forgot to disclose apparently.

 

we made a fire and enjoyed our plain white bread (for 3 consecutive meals). we slept in a campsite that was surrounded by electrical fences so that we don’t get any late night visitors, the boys in the tent and me in the truck. still slightly terrified about sleeping in such close proximity to lions but getting out of my comfort zone is what peace play pash is all about! woke up to a stunning 5am sunrise over the Tanzania, the guys point out that the crazy thing about this view is there is likely not a human soul to be seen.

 

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following sunrise and some more white bread (day 2, just keeps gettin better) we set off on my fave day.

 

we kicked things off by rounding a bend and running almost directly into an elephant blocking our path. Ragnar goes “HOLD MY COFFEE” and is pedal to the metal in reverse, while Yukhi is snapping photos and i get a maj case of the giggles because when else does this happen?!

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the rest of the day was driving around (tailing a guide so we dont run into any more elephants) and spotting giraffes, buffalo, Pumbas (warthogs), monkeys, baboons and a ton of deer/gazelles/antelope of the plain. a bunch of hippos in the water and a herd of 12 elephants across the lake. it was a thrill like i’ve never felt before and i am seriously considering blowing the rest of my trip budge on safaris. there is nothing more fun.

 

pics are below (cred to Yukhi for sending his real camera shots)!!

 

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Peace, Rwanda

Kigali days

quick activity log:

– went to Mille Collines (the actual Hotel Rwanda – watch the movie if you haven’t!) for a pool day. it started to downpour so naturally made a British friend named Daniel and got day drunk off pina coladas

– trivia night with delish pizza at Sole Luna. was a BIT much. ordered our orange juice 3 times. got 2nd place in trivia though, who knew?

– got caught in the rain on Christine’s scooter and drove home to the most majestic double rainbow. back at home the skies were sunny and raining to the right, and brooding storm clouds to the left. Rwanda is magic.

– suntanned on the driveway, schoolboys all gathered across the street giggling and trying to get a peep through the gate. this is what zoo animals feel like. Tommy goes “Kellie how many times do i have to tell ya, they got nothin else to do”. promptly moved inside.

– went on a walk with Eric to Remera. Eric helps with random errands like grocery shopping and fixing their coffee machines. he is the sweetest soul. he lives in a room at the back of the house with his friend Claude. he always stops by the porch when i’m on the hammock (aka every morning) to shyly say hello and chat. couple things i learned about Eric on our walk to Remera: he is 23, he grew up in a village where there were only 4 houses nearby. he speaks Kinyarwanda but also English, French, Swahili, and Turkish (he lived with a Turkish family for 8 months). the first time he saw a white person he was 8 years old. he says the reason kids are so excited to see us because we’re good luck. Eric wants to become a truck driver – he showed me the driving school where he will get his trucking license. when we stopped at a grocery store and i told him to pick out something he wanted, he chose a bar of soap.

– scooted with Tommy to Tally Cafe for banana bread (best in Kigali), cappuccino/African iced tea. peed in a hole in the ground.

– then scooted to Kimironko market, v smelly and dirty but literally EVERYTHING you could ever need, organized by section. fruits + veg, seeds, electronics, soaps, hardware supplies, fabrics for custom clothing. i got a shirt made that is fitted and thick and NOTHING like the photo we agreed upon. 7,000 RWF which is about 10 bucks. gave it to Eric to give to his sister.

– Oktoberfest-themed house party at Tommys’ friends. they go ALL out here for parties, and their houses are gorgeous. these guys hosted a wedding in their backyard a few months ago. hired 6 DJs to play throughout the night, live band, beer, cocktail bar (with Mars bars-infused vods), chapati “Rolex” food vendor, tiki torches and couches on the lawn. just a casz Saturday in Kigali.

– boutique hotel + restaurant Heaven for some fish tacos and a cute view.

i’ve been busy booking stuff for the remainer of my time in Kigali and my next 2 stops. STAY TUNED!! 🙂

Peace, Rwanda

Getaway to Gisenyi

smeagled away from Kigali for a couple days of r&r this week. the PINNACLE of my peace journey.

the east side of Rwanda is flat and grassy like a savanna and has Akagera Park, which is home to elephants, giraffes, baboons etc. the west side, bordering the Democratic Republic of Congo, is more mountainous, green, jungle-y. on this border is Lake Kivu, which has a mix of high end resorts and rural Rwandan villages, like the one we went to called Byumba.

Tommy and i took a 4-hour-turned-6-hour bus ride to a village on Lake Kivu called Gisenyi (renamed to Rubavu). i wanted to nap but the views were too freaking stunning. there are people EVERYWHERE carrying huge bowls of fruit or stacks of grass/bamboo on their heads, sitting staring at the cars passing by, working on their crops. some kids were playing slip and slide in a mud puddle. there is ALWAYS something to look at. i’m obsessed with the banana trees, they make everything look so tropical. every section of land along that road is farmed – carrots, cabbage, cucumbers, rice, tea, coffee, avocados, mangos, etc etc. they have not wasted ANY land – like unless it is a vertical rocky cliff, it has crops on it.

about 10k from our destination our driver pulled over and got out of the bus because the Tour du Rwanda bike race was coming up on that road. we got out and soon realized that we were more exciting to the kids in this village than waiting for the race; we were surrounded within a minute. the kids just stare, suss us out from head to toe, shyly smile and say “hi” back to us. one is usually brave enough to step up and say “what is your name. mine is (insert 12-syllable name that i cannot pronounce).” then the rest of the kids all giggle. i’ve been trying to pinpoint the kind of excitement that i’m seeing in these kids, and my best comparison is if you suddenly spot Leo Dicaprio (or your preferred celeb) and he makes direct eye contact and waves at you. it’s that level of giddiness.

Tommy and i know we could be waiting for the bikers to pass forever so we eventually start walking, passing many kids who say: “good morning!” “how are you i’m fine” “give me money” and sometimes “i am hungry”. they are not begging, these are the words they’ve been taught. we’re about 30 mins and 4 blistered feet in when the bikers have passed and our bus is back on the move; it pulls over on the side of the road to pick us up again. perks of being the only white people in a 100 km radius, your bus will have no trouble spotting you! the passengers are all excited to see us and get up so we can have our original seats back. so so nice.

in Gisenyi we stayed at Hakuna Matata lodge on Lake Kivu, at a discount thanks to manager Pascal – THIS PLACE IS HEAVEN. everyone must go here!!! easily the most peaceful place i’ve ever been – palm trees, tropical birds (my faves are the yellow one and the black one with a red beak and a mullet), large clean modern rooms with a king sized bed and mosquito net that doesnt suffocate your face when you sleep (a true luxury), unobstructed views of the immaculate gardens and the lake. i was sitting on the balcony looking out at the lake and the only sounds i heard were soft waves against the shore, and the wind beneath the birds’ wings as they flew by. 12/10 bliss.

there are often fishing boats on the lake, including ~10 longboats that go out when it gets dark and stay out till 8am fishing with their lanterns. across the lake is Congo which i am obsessively intrigued by because it is a wild wild jungle – not quite Rwanda-safe let’s just say that. the Congo border is like 100m from a cute/delish cafe we went to 3 times, Calafia (amazing smoothies, salads and sandwiches).

Tommy and i walk through the village along the lake and get caught in a downpour as per usz, i have some liquor labelled “vodka” which i’m pretty sure was gin. being tipsy in Rwanda is such a trip because you get to be your friendliest self and everyone is so happy to say “hi how are you i’m fine” back.

^^ spreading some Canadian love with some new pins

we went to Palm Beach restaurant for a 2 hour wait for dinner. go there for the ambience, not the prompt service. we were in bed by a glorious 9pm.

next day we are treated with fresh fruit, omelettes & crepes for breaky, then head down to get our tan on (or burn on, for a sunscreen-less Tommay) and go swimming just off the lawn. i almost drown from loling at his “butt paddle” swim which consists of him swimming with his booty popped up above water. i have to look away so i can calm down the lols. he also demonstrates the sidestroke, which didn’t quiiite make the olympics. it was delightful except i found out when i got back that swimming in Kivu is like a 99% guarantee that you’ll get a parasite, which you have to take a pill for in 3 months. a detail Tommy conveniently withheld from me. i’m fine! everything’s fine!

Tommy has to go back to coach swimming to we do a quick Gossland swap and Christine joins me for more (actual) vodka along the lake, carbonara for dinner, and amazing theraputic life conversations. she is the best and has been such a key part of my peace here.

the next day we read on the lawn and do a quick workout followed by another parasite-y but refreshing swim. moto to Calafia and then are frantically ushered onto a bus on its way out; which means we are stuck with the smelliest stuffiest backrow seats. Rwandans don’t smell what we smell and get cold in the wind. we BEG for people to open their windows, Christine tells them the wind is good for the woman with a baby in front of us; she tells them she would know, she has 4 babies lol. they were all bundling up at any tinge of wind. eventually they give in and give us a window seat near the front – persistence pays off, folks!

back to Kigali for some weekend nightlife feelin’ refreshed, relaxed and really quite thrilled that i finally have my African base tan!

Peace, Rwanda

good morning, Rwanda!

 

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okay this day was crazy.

 

we drove up to Rwanda’s Northern Province to check out a village that one of Christine and Tommy’s coffee friends is helping out via the Manzi Foundation. the drive was SO beautiful with lush hills and valleys stretching forever, banana trees, tea fields, little huts. throughout the entire 2 hour drive, people were walking along the highway with giant stacks of grass or produce on their heads, or little babies wrapped up in a cocoon on their backs, or kids walking their cow or goat. (things you don’t see in Vancouver: kids taking their cow for a walk at the side of a highway).

 

as we got further from the city, people became more and more excited to see us mzungus (white people). my new fave hobby is waving and saying “hi!” to Rwandans in their villages and seeing their faces light up. like literally beaming in excitement to see us. one girl’s eyes almost popped out of her head as she did a double take. the only one who’s ever been that excited to see me before is Barney.

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they have learned a few English phrases including “good morning!” so they yell that at all hours of the day and night, it is the best lololol. another one of their go-tos is “i’m fine!” which is also v adorable.

 

we arrived at the village Byumba and everyone just SWARMED around us. i had brought little Canada flag pins to give out and they went nuts. like you’d think we were giving out gold. one of the men was more than happy to step up as our helper, and distributed the pins so we could have some breathing room.

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the kids are so funny. some like photos, many will run away when they see a phone out. they are SO giddy/kind of bashful when you smile and wave at them. sometimes they look behind them like “is she really waving at ME?” they follow you everywhere you go. everywhere. but they are not begging, not getting up in our grill (although one did pet Tommy’s back) and they are just curious and adorable.

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^^ this was my fave little guy. he liked his picture taken, was throwing out sass for the camera, and followed me everywhere. we drove a few mins away and when we were leaving, i looked out the window and saw that he had followed us there from his village. i might just go Angelina Jolie over here.

 

Tommy and Christine’s friend had said we should pop by a soccer game in the community, so we moseyed on over after spending some time in the village. what we didn’t know was the teams had been waiting for us to begin and we were some sort of special guests because of Tommy and Christine’s association with the Manzi foundation.

 

when we got there everyone went NUTS. like 300 Rwandan children ran over to us and were staring in awe. i am guessing they don’t come across white people too often.

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along with a Rwandan police officer and a few members of government and others from the foundation, we were escorted to the end of the field where they had put chairs out for us. apparently we had arrived, so the game could begin (SO bizarre)

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we were brought out onto the field to shake the players’ hands to kick things off. during the game kids were PACKED around the field but so many of them were just locked on us sitting on our chairs. i realized this is how Kim Kardashian must feel. except i am even less worthy.

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at halftime everyone gathered around our chairs and some people made speeches. at one point they asked us to stand up and give a wave, but motioning me to stand up as well was certainly completely unnec. again, NOT WORTHY. Christine whispers to me “Kellie i had no idea this was happening” and we both get the giggles because this is just so so so bizarre.

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she had brought waters for the players and Fantas (basically a delicacy here in Rwanda) for as many people as possible. it was weird, some of the kids she offered them to would just run away and wouldn’t even take the drinks. maybe they’re just scared at us because we look so funny (and are not worthy).

 

the ride home was glorious and peaceful. our driver was playing some Lion King classical inspirational music as we drove past the tea fields as the sun was setting, and i shouted “good morning!” at the kids along the road and in the field, and gave thumbs up to peeps on their bikes. it was one of those magical moments that you would only dream of getting out of the “peace” leg of your trip.

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and this is only my third day in Africa – have a feeling there’s more of that to come! ❤

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Peace, Rwanda

arriving in Kigali

 

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i’ve been in Rwanda for 3 days and feel like i’ve already made memories to fulfill my entire trip. this country is crazy, hectic, stunning, heartwarming and inspiring. my heart is full.

 

culture shock

everything is different here. the streets are going nuts with moto taxis. there are tiny vibrant run-down shops and the streets are paved and then cobblestone and then dusty reddish dirt. there are tropical palm trees everywhere but it’s not like any tropical place i’ve been. there are clay huts but also beautiful gated houses with perfectly manicured gardens lining the streets. i am the minorest minority.

when i arrived at Tommy’s house his houseboy Claude and his friend Eric are chillin on the front porch. they are paid 60,000 Rwandan Francs (about $90 cad) per month to oversee the house and help out with maintenance/security as well as errands like grocery shopping. they live in a room behind the house and are always here. they are happy and sweet and friendly and this livelihood is more than they made at the village they came from, which was $0. they also have a darling housecleaner named Cecille who comes in every day. it is SO weird and morally conflicting and uncomfortable but it took only a day before i realized this is the way it is here, they are happy, and i feel safe having them here.

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Rwandans are EVERYWHERE. they are constantly walking the streets, staring at you, carrying bags or produce on their heads. sitting on sidewalks doing nothing. i’m not sure a lot of them have anywhere to go, or at least not anything in a hurry.

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they are freakishly nice. like, it’s bizarre how nice they are. they have invited me into their home for dinner, are so so so happy that we are here enjoying their country. there is 0 concern that they will steal anything or harm us. this confidence is something i learned from Christine, who has been living in Kigali for two years. we were walking home in the dark (sun goes down at 6:15 here and most streets are pitch black). 3 boys in their late teens were advancing behind us – if i was by myself i would have been l o s i n g it but Christine turned to them and said “hello!” and they flashed huge smiles and said “hi!” giggled and walked away. they just want to say hi and maybe they don’t see girls with white skin and blonde hair that often.

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Rwandans are insanely trustworthy. Christine and Tommy have both lost things (from a pen to a Tory Burch wallet) that were eagerly returned to them later by a local who went out of their way to do so. last night we left our helmets on Christine’s scooter to go to a bar, Inema Arts Center, came out and they were gone. just as we were cursing ourselves for leaving them, a security guy came running up with the helmets. they had hid them for us just to keep them safe.

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the heart

the fact that Rwandans are so nice and trusting is nothing short of a miracle considering their beyond tragic history. up to 1 million people were murdered during 100 days during the 1994 genocide. that was during my lifetime as well as the lifetimes of most people i pass on the street here. it was unthinkably tragic and devastating. i’ll probably post more on this later, but the way that they have rebuilt is absolutely astonishing. 23 years later Kigali is now the cleanest city in Africa, and one of the safest. i have not talked to one local that was rude to me or anything short of friendly. of course you feel reminders of the genocide EVERYWHERE, but the city has rebuilt itself and filled its people with hope and positivity in an INCREDIBLY short time.

my first lunch here i was telling our server, Sam, how beautiful i think it is here. he was so happy to hear, but said it hasn’t always been beautiful. Sam was born in 1994 two months after the genocide. i teared up when he said, “We have seen miracles happen here.” it’s so true.

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my Kinyarwanda vocab:

chapati = 20 cent crepe-type street food that we got from a man making them down the street. a cheap and delish dinner.

mzungu = a white person

murakoze = thank you

mwara mutze = good morning

amakuru = how are you

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New York City, Pregame

but first: the pregame

peace play passion

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i couldn’t think a better way to start off the trip than in one of my favourite cities, with one of my favourite people/my work wife/twin/shimmy sister, Carmen aka Kermin.

it actually blows my mind how every New York trip gets better than the last. this one was the first time i’ve really delved into NYC nightlife and we had a freaking BLAST. danced our lil butts off, met so many friends (weirdly like 99% lawyers???) kept it semi budget-friendly due to an alarming amount of free drinks in exchange for zero effort, and were nonstop living our best lives. truly thriving.

my insta stories have basically been a visual documentation of our activities but going to jot down a quick breakdown (which is mostly “had to be there” stuff but like my blog so whatevs):

Thursday

  • 2 hours in traffic (welcome to New York) meet Mike Lawyer #1 for keys outside of his office aka the New York Times building. like what is your life, so cool. except he was being summoned back to work at a casual 7pm. work hard play hard i guess.
  • Uber Pool friend was a wannabe celeb who needs more information about the BET Awards red carpet. our dream for her is to refer her agent by their actual name.
  • get to Zack’s dream apt in SoHo who had left us a bottle of champs + full booklet of info/recos for our trip. best host award, hands down, we are not worthy
  • despite Alexa being QUITE stubborn, we have a fab dance party predrink and venture off to Jimmy at the James (the first of many rooftops). random human buys us a $20 drink and we say k if you must, because we are on a budge and also eat arugula for lunch.
  • Carmen’s gaydar prevents me from meeting some guys in fur vests, but we do make friends with a “suede” (velour) jacket designer and tell him we can help his business take off in Vancouver – trust us, our PR skills are better than your model friend with the dog in the club.
  • lots of dancing, a genre-ADD dj, meet Parisian Lawyer #1 and #2, off to a speakeasy with a quick stop at Artichoke Pizza, try not to poison our new friends with a whiskey allergy.
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Friday

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  • acai bowls at Equinox because we are healthy and we earned it, walk across the bridge to Brooklyn. supes cute shops and restaurants. i got a presh “p” necklace because it was the perfect day, everything is perfect, peace play passion, the pregame, and paxian
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  • weren’t in a bbq state of mind (although thank you Max for the Fette Sau reco) so had lunch at the cutest French bistro rooftop, Juliette.
  • Prosecco and Aperol Spritz at a patio in Little Italy
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  • quick stop at home and then off to Miss Lily’s for dinner – amazing Caribbean atmosphere, server is basically Rihanna, jerk chicken and corn i have been craving since i went last year. EVERYONE NEEDS TO GO HERE.
  • couple dranks, meet Parisian Lawyers at the Standard Rooftop where Long Island Brad and his friends are a bit much. but the bathrooms have a view of the Empire State bldg so it was awesome.
  • then comedy cellar (also a must) – no surprise guests but did see an old Chelsea Lately fave, Dov Davidoff, and Jessica was hilar with her pep talks to the wall. we see her after at the bar and tell her she’s our fave – also Carmen discovers a newfound love for chalk drawings at the bar. her perfect bar has chalkboard tables and bathrooms with a view. and robes. and a pool.
  • off to our fave part of the trip THE JANE HOTEL THIS PLACE IS THE BESTTTT. our new Uber Pool friend is Nick Depressed Young Lawyer #4 who is being summoned home by his boss at midnight. we hope Nick quits his job and finds his own peace play passion.
  • Belgian Lawyer #5 invites us to cut the line because it is around the block and the bouncers are power tripping hard. this lawyer was the nicest lawyer!!
  • The Jane Hotel is a giant old living room and we are THRIIIIVING dancing on couches to the best music with the most fun people. i discover i will likely fall in love with anyone who sings Despacito in his native tongue, Carmy gets me and is the most supportive friend. we never want to leave.
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Saturday

  • grab a bagel, eat it at Washington Square Park where there is live music, a topless photoshoot, and a dog stealthily stealing its human’s lunch (she was supposed to be on a diet). very New York and perfect.
  • we dance to the street drummers all the way down the block – why isn’t this our everyday life soundtrack??
  • exploring the cutest West Village/Greenwich – Carrie B-shaw’s steps, Friends building, I FEEL YOU BABY blogger lineup. life-changing hand moisturizing demo.
  • Flatiron, pasta heaven Eataly, mojitos at rooftop bar 230 Fifth, bundle up in our stylish robes and an igloo atmosphere. Carmy has partnered with Kate Spade for this Insta photo #sponsored #ad
  • home and then off for whatever the night has in store – which turned out to be cocktails at speakeasy Little Branch, making Uber Pool friends with Shelly and Elly. Elly is v well connected and we are lucky to have met him, we hear.
  • Amaze dance party at Catch (but no Leo sighting) smeagle over to No8 for bottle service because did i mention Elly says he is well connected? but we just miss Hotel Jane. quick stop at Gansevoort for more dancing and then a swing and a miss at Jane because the bouncers forgot we were regulars. we regret not getting the stamps permanently tattooed on our wrists.
  • make some more Uber Pool friends because you have to, and then home. even if they are not lawyers, they are probably still lawyers.
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Sunday

  • rainy day, bennies and some shopping
  • blackberry infused rosé and our server looks like Nick Miller so i am v happy. Zack gets home and says we’ve been doing NYC right and i have never felt so honoured in my life.
  • dins at Jack’s Wife Freda, then live jazz/ping pong at Fat Cat.
  • Carmy and I frolic over to Times Square for some more dancing and singing Havana. still absolutely thriving. we facetime Er Bear from the steps and head home. i meet my new Spanish friend for a drink at a kareoke bar and decide 2 hours of sleep is a good way to kick off my 21-hour journey to Rwanda. yolo.
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and here i am!! 10 hours in, 11 to go, couple naps/eps of New Girl, just bloggin’ away. The Pregame was unreal, but super excited to take some time off the bender, see Tommy and Christine, and settle into the Peace leg that is Rwanda. Africa here i come!!